Safety First…

In response to the Daily Post, “Safety First”, Share the story of a time you felt unsafe.

I have felt unsafe on many occasions in my life, mostly due to feel mentally and emotionally unsafe in response to the people around me. This caused by being around people that I can’t trust or can’t relax around.

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courtesy of clipart/jonata

I understand that I cannot control others’, nor their actions and expressions, but I can control with whom I allow myself to interact except for while I am at work. I limit contact with people who are erratic, narcissistic, and those who do not value me or Boyfriend. This is one of many reasons I sought out and accepted a new job almost two months ago. I could not trust the people with whom I worked and had to depend upon over the past two years, as workers and as people. You can tell when someone is phony and/or untrustworthy when they smile at you and then stop/start talking to someone else as you leave/enter a room. Or when they only engage you to get information for their benefit, but not for the sake of conversation. You can tell that someone only talked to you and appreciated your “friendship” when you were both in frequently proximity, but you don’t hear from them when you no longer see each other at the office.

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courtesy of clipart/doctormo

I felt unsafe, rather vulnerable, often as a child and teenager because I was teased and had few friends. The friends I had were also people who were teased or had few friends, and would sometimes leave me for other friends with parents that were more lenient with their rules or bought the newest, coolest gadgets.  I rarely felt physically unsafe but the stress and emotional strain was not easy to deal with for years and years, and I was outnumbered, which I was lucky to not have been physically threatened. As an adult, I try to pull from the lessons these experiences taught me, especially to be myself and to seek out people who are respectful and accepting of me and my uniqueness. You don’t have to agree with me but be open to new ideas. I would rather have a small circle of people I can trust than a large circle of people who I call into question. It’s best to be safe than sorry!

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Kick the Bucket

What are the top items on your anti-bucket list — those things you never, ever want to do, the places you never want to visit, books you never want to read, etc.?(This was a WP Daily Prompt from 12/14/14)

This is an interesting topic due to its negative tone but one that resonates with everyone. For every thought, song, food, drink, activity, travel destination, article of clothing, etc. that intrigues, there is someone else experiencing repulsion. Each person has a few things on their Never-To-Do list. Sometimes you need to eliminate what you don’t want to find out what you really do want.

Despite being an athlete for many years, I am not a runner. It has been a part of my competitive training but never something I would do for enjoyment. I have tried to make a habit of running, at least on a treadmill, when I have been in decent shape but is otherwise not easy or appealing for me. A marathon would be my undoing, for sure.

I have been to Pike’s Peak, done some light hiking in the mountains, climbed all over The Badlands, and have enjoyed various forms of nature at different elevations but I have no inclination to go deep-sea diving, skydiving, paragliding or any other activity that involves me throwing total caution to the wind, as it were. Class III rapids is where the buck stops with me. I can deal with depth and heights so long as I can do so as safely and securely as possible.

I am not one for plastic surgery, or any surgery, but feel that it might be fine for someone else if that is what they choose or what is necessary for them. After watching my parents recover from multiple joint replacement surgeries, I am hoping to keep my body healthy enough to never need to go under the knife.

Among the other things I wish not to do are: be famous, run for office, take a cruise into the middle of the ocean or read The Hunger Games books. A life in the limelight is not for me, as there are days I would rather not be bothered, much less have cameras follow my every move. Politicians often have to say what will get them elected or do what the donors/lobbyists/powers-that-be want them to do, rather than what the people want or what is right. Not for me. I have no interest in setting myself up for what would be very risky propositions by taking a cruise. For every positive story I have heard, I counter it with stories of illness and other cruise disasters gone wrong. As for The Hunger Games series, read by youth and adults alike, I will pass. As I watched the first Hunger Games movie, I was shocked with the content-the forced violence by youth, the oppression, and the overt pageantry of the elite. After years of reading fiction, I now prefer to read books that teach me something or get me thinking.

Basically, my Boyfriend says that I shouldn’t get out of bed!

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