Quote Me…”I shall never surrender or retreat.”

In response to the Daily Prompt,” Do you have a favorite quote that you return to again and again? What is it, and why does it move you?”   WP_20151207_014

I’m not sure that I have a favorite quote but this quote by William B. Travis, captured on a statue commemorating The Alamo, has come to mind recently. It seems that many things in this life are a battle each day, from being out amongst a poor manners public, who cannot say excuse me or ask politely to get by, to the daily search for truth and real information, to the upcoming elections that will take place this year in the United States at the federal and local levels. Will the people elected for president and other offices act supposed in the public’s best interest as they further restrict our  daily choices and our God-given rights?

Some people are fighting other public and personal battles with their families, their employers, society and its rules, and the harsh realities of life. Psychedelic-Hearts-Tunnel-3

This quote also comes to mind because I have had to defend my opinions and justify my feelings to people throughout my life, often when it was not the other person’s place to question me. I can admit when I am wrong most of the time but I don’t like having to justify myself because I don’t fit someone else’s idea of normal. Nor do I like having to play along because I refuse to just accept what I am told as the truth, even though it’s a funny looking duck. I am who I am, and you are free to be who you are, too, whether you are comfortable enough to do so or not. Be yourself with courage, dignity, and strength while still having love and respect for others.

© 2016 blogdaysofchrell

 

I Walk The Line

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt from 03/27/15: “I Walk the Line.” Have you got a code you live by? What are the principles or set of values you actively apply in your life?

I am not perfect, and I would never claim to be. I attempt to be a decent human being by exhibiting  honesty, trust-worthiness and the authenticity of  being myself. I am generally liked or disliked because I don’t kiss ass, I don’t do phony very well and I will not embellish or misrepresent myself or my feelings, like many people I know are willing to do. There is no in between. Whatever I don’t say my face will usually say for me. As my dad would tell me when I was younger, “You might as well wear a sign.”  I don’t like to be lied to and, in my work, lying to people gets you in trouble as it does in real life –  people remember what you said or promised and will call you on it, leaving you discredited and untrusted. Over the years as I have matured, I have learned that honesty can be delivered with care, rather than with a sledgehammer, and can help someone hear you with less conflict. Sometimes honesty elicits anger from the other person, but also respect for your candidness.

I try to be considerate of others’ time, space and their peace. It would be easy to let my door slam as I come and go from my apartment, but I tend to be cautious because I noticed how aggravated I become when I listen to my neighbors let their doors slam all day long. One thing I don’t tolerate quite as well, though, is constant dog-barking. This will usually cause me to yell out my window, mostly likely on a nice day when not only do I have my window open, but the annoying dog owner also has his window open. I  try to be considerate of my co-workers, as I work in a room with two, soon to be three, people along a hallway with other offices. I take my personal calls outside and try not to shout when I am on work calls because that is all you can hear, and it is easy to get distracted. I try to park my car in the lines. I try hard to be like Boyfriend, who is thoughtful, considerate, organized and caring, though he has been on the receiving end of complete opposite behavior for a good portion of his life from many people, especially his family. He picks his battles and saves his energy for other things, which I have yet to master. You can’t win against an under-handed narcissist…

If you are a friend in whom I can trust and depend upon, I am loyal until you break that bond. Although I am argumentative at times, I actually don’t like conflict and try to get along with people. This is the result of being a kid in a conflict-ridden household with parents who tried to get you on their side. Even as an adult, this continues today, and I get the what-for if one parent thinks I am on the other parent’s side. However, I have experience doing conflict resolution in my work and with co-workers rather successfully. I am better at solving others’ problems than my own. I believe that you should say what you mean and you should mean what you say, and that you can do it without being mean. I don’t always succeed but I try, and try, and try again, even when giving up would be easier. And I don’t expect others to be perfect either, I just expect them to try to be cautious, or considerate or even conscious that their actions affect other… is that too much to ask?

© 2015 blogdaysofchrell